I have a friend who always knows how I’m feeling, she says that my eyes say it all, and just last week she saw me and said my eyes were sparkling. I had quite a bad phase at the start of the year but I picked myself up and I did all of the above, I surrounded myself with positivity and I’m so happy! Not a moment goes by where I’m not happy. And it gives the person who has hurt no more right on you or your happiness.Īnd the advice I’ve given above isn’t just relevant to when you’re hurt by someone, it’s relevant to any situation that upsets you. This makes you a better person and makes the person who hurt you even less worthy of you. When you look after yourself by drinking and eating healthily, exercising, meditating and surrounding yourself with positive teachings then you incorporate a healthy and good change within yourself. During this time, be productive, meditate, do yoga, do positive things because you’re in a state where you’ve been wounded and have a negative mindset leading to you becoming negative. Of course put a slight guard up to stop yourself from getting hurt and take your time recovering from the situation but be kind to yourself.

Instead, change yourself for the better, become a better person who is capable of more love. Ask yourself is that person who hurt you so important that they ruin your life by making you incapable of loving another? And we make ourselves hollow in the process and stop living life. What if I cut myself off from all the guys and don’t get into any relationships, and in the process of doing so I lose out on ACTUALLY LIVING MY LIFE, HAVING FUN, LEARNING FROM MY MISTAKES and maybe even miss out on the right guy? That’s MY loss, and MY fault.Īnd that’s why even though in my angry state I’ll go on and on about how I’m never going to trust anyone again or get attached to anyone again, I know that in reality it won’t happen because I’ll end up reasoning with myself and I can’t deal with the idea of not being happy because I’ve cut myself off from emotion and relationships.īy cutting ourselves off we’re hurting ourselves more, and we’re giving those meaningless people too much importance in our life. Ok fair enough you’re hurt, but if you cut yourself from every guy who tries then you’ll end up all alone.įor me, when I had my two half hearted attempts of closing myself off from everyone, I didn’t do them very well because I’ve got this massive thing about regrets and taking chances etc. You must have heard or maybe at some point may have said it yourself: “ALL MEN ARE THE SAME AND I HATE THEM ALL” and then the said person would cut themselves off from relationships. Right so my point is that people create this massive shield around them and put their guards up, that’s not a bad thing necessarily, but it’s important to remember that if we cut ourselves off so much from emotion then we’ll be no different than a hollow object. I didn’t do it very well though, I’ll explain why in a bit. I know for me, personally, if I’m really hurt I’ll cover up my hurt with anger and I’ve had two incidents where I’ve reacted in the way I’ve described above. We’ve all been hurt in some way at some point and we all have had bad reactions to it at some point. This then leads to them having a 10 mile radius shield around them (not literally) so that they don’t get close to anyone else and aren’t hurt in the same way again. But a lot of times people are so affected by the incident that they lose trust in the idea of love, friendship, trust etc. Right so when someone hurts us, clearly they have MANAGED TO HURT US because we care about them, otherwise it wouldn’t hurt. What I mean by that is that many times we are hurt by the people we love most, whether it’s our boyfriend, girlfriend, friend or family, and after that experience we react by closing ourselves off. Hey hey! Today’s post is about closing ourselves off.

Don t let anyone take your sparkle